Okay so a little back story so ya'll get the low-down...
My dad has been an arrogant, overbearing, child beating jerk since I've known him. I have two other sisters, my older sister is in a wheelchair and has been since birth, and we have a baby sister, just three years younger than me. So our entire childhood was torture. We'd get beaten and name called on a daily basis. Stuff thrown at us, my dad would make messes and make us clean it up... He used to beat my mom, and then he stopped beating her, and completely took his rage out on us. He would also NOT stop touching us even when we'd tell him to stop. My sister who was in a wheelchair, was beaten so bad, and she couldn't walk so she couldn't escape. He gave her a black eye a few times, but the first time my mom noticed (she used to work all the time)and asked my sis what happened, and the I told my mom what happened, and about everything else that was going on. Guess what? My mom got mad at my dad, but didn't do anything about it. And as far as everything else, she told us she didn't believe us. We could trust no one. All we had was each other....
We got older, and we started putting my dad in his place, and he realized that we weren't the cowering children in the corner anymore. We were adults, and we were pissed. So eventually, my dad left my mom for another woman and she was devastated. We thought he was gone for good, so we finally started living peacefully, having great holidays & birthdays unlike before... And then dad comes back. And he's pretending to make nice with everyone, but we still obviously dont trust him around our kids... He kept leaving and coming back... leaving... then coming back...
Well this last time, my younger sister told her kids that he wasn't a grandfather because of how mean he was, and instead of calling him grandpa, they were to call him by his name. My dad used to tell my sister she was ugly, and she was found in a trash can, and would bite her... and then didnt want her kids over because theyre mexican (hes mexican too)so its understandable. She didn't want him in the kids life and refused to let him go to her dd's t-ball game. So he said she wasn't allowed to come back to the house. My mom said she supported his decision bcuz theyre working on their marriage. So my sister no longer goes over to my parents house. Well heres the predicament...
My son is having a little birthday shin-dig on Friday, after he graduates from kinder. We're gonna have it at the zoo. My sister said that if my dad shows, she's going to leave. I asked my son who he'd rather have there, his cousins or grandpa and he said the kids. So I didn't invite my dad. I just want a drama free birthday for my son, but my mom is trying to pressure me into inviting my dad and I just wish she could respect my decision.
So... I don't want to invite my dad. My son wants his cousins there. What's the best way to solve this situation? DO you think its wrong not to invite my crazy dad?
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