I am a step mom to 3 beautiful children. For the most part thier dad backs me up on parenting. My issue is with his dad. His dad lives with us and provides in home day care for the 2 youngest. They are 3 and 4.while we are at work he watches adult TV programs like judge Judy and Jerry springer and makes them sit on the couch hands folded. They are not allowed to move or talk. My DF agrees that this is not good, but we can't afford child care. Thier bio- mom offers no financial support. We are working on that. I have tried to improve the situation . I have put together a play area for them in the living room in view of the recliner FIL uses. I still don't think they are allowed to play. When I get home the kids are usually locked in thier rooms. When I ask why he says that wouldn't sit on the couch. By his chair there are multiple toys that have been confiscated. When I ask why, he gets visibly upset with me. His responses are lame and his body language tells me he is lying. He says things like.. They threw it or hit each other with it. We have asked him repeatedly not to put them in thier rooms as punishment and I even bought him a timer for time out in the corner. My DF and I agree that time out is standing in a corner. I minute for each year of the child. I don't know what else to do. My DF agrees with me and has told his dad not yo do these things, but to no avail. I have tried to find out of house programs for the kids. We either don't qualify or can't afford it. Ie. Head start program turned us down. Any suggestions would be helpful. Should I set up a hidden camera to call him on his BS? Won't that cause more problems since he lives with us? I love his dad but you can't treat kids this way! I try to make up for it when I get home. We play together and go outside. The TV goes off when I get home! Is there a diplomatic solution I haven't thought of? Please help?!
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