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Do something for you child birthday, even though she did not do well in school, her birthday is in June when school lets out for the summer.

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Asked by ttk2 at 2:03 PM on May. 18, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Yes.......punish any which way around that day that celebrates her life.........screw ups or not.......she still deserves a celebration, even it is a small one. It's not like it is a national holiday, that can be "taken away", but not her birthday!

    Answer by Dahis at 2:06 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • Absolutely. Birthday's are about celebrating life, not punishing mistakes. There are plenty of other ways to address a poor school year w/o turning a birthday sour.

    Answer by JewelryDivaLisa at 2:06 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • Yes. A birthday party is a celebration of them being here and alive. I dont believe you should take away that celebration.

    Answer by gemgem at 2:07 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • I would keep it with just a family thing, invite family and tell her she can invite her best-friend and their parents

    Answer by zoejains_momma at 2:09 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • Totally seperate issues if you ask me, now that being said, I would not spend 100's of dollars, perhaps give her a goal to work for for a 1/2 birthday party,, for example this year we are going bowling and you can invite 2 or 3 friends, if you do better in school next year we will take you and (however many) to an amusement park or on a small trip.. I think not to celebrate it for YOU and for her being on the earth and healthy is not a good idea!

    Answer by kimigogo at 2:11 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • Im sorry but your daughters' birthday is a special day for you and her. The day she left your womb and also the day she saw the light was emotional for the 2 of you so celebrate it only happens once a year.

    Answer by Rollinro at 2:17 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • I would still give her a birthday party, every kid should have them.

    Answer by DomesticQueen07 at 2:18 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • I talked with her this morning, I was telling her that I have a chance to do some over-time at work her birthday weekend, she wants a sleepover. I said that she can have a few friends sleep over and I will take them skating, she also ask for the mall also, but I said no. I really want this over-time, she is also going camping the week before her birthday and wants me and her baby sister to come, but I will be spending money on that , so I told her no and she got upset with me. I don't know what to do, since she's been having minor problems in school

    Comment by ttk2 (original poster) at 2:18 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • Yes, my children's birthday celebrations are not contigent on whether they do well in school or not. There are other ways to encourage them to do better in school.

    Answer by riotgrrl at 2:19 PM on May. 18, 2011

  • Of course.

    Answer by mompam at 2:21 PM on May. 18, 2011

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