Yes, this isn't the first time and even her dad has said with her recent stunt, "she's probably not getting enough attention for her bday. She's 19 and has a bad habit of lying to get attention, whether it's a full blown fabrication, or teasing the facts. We've both called her out on her behavior numerous times as she was growing up, but nothing every seemed to work curbing her lying. We took her to counseling when she was younger and all she did was lie to the counselor. And constantly throughout her teen years she would lie to her dad about me, things I've said or done...for example when she got a job, it was a 1 mile from the home and she didn't have a car...so, I'd take her to work. However, there were a few occasions where I couldn't...I still have 2 other kid's to cart around. On this occasion I told her I would back at 930am to take her to work...At 845am she calls her dad and tells him that I wouldn't take her to work and she had to walk. She made it into a big deal. Example 2, during the summer she had a new job...I asked her if she needed a ride to work, she said yes, at 2pm...at 11am as I'm getting out of the shower, I just finished yard work, she's starts yelling at me, telling me she's going to be late for work and she told me 11, not 2pm...When I took her to work, I told her that was bs and she was responsible knowing the correct time to be at work.... Later that evening we were having friends over, her dad went & picked her up from work told her that her behavior was unacceptable. A hour after she got home she called her mom & said that me and her dad were being mean to her and that I wouldn't even look at her.
Her latest one has me confused and slightly p.offed. We invited a bunch of friends & family over for Easter dinner. I was busy cooking and literally only had minutes to talk to people until I was done cooking. While I was cooking my nephew (who is gay) come up in the kitchen and asks me about my s.d. new girlfriend/partner "so what do you think of her?" I replied, "I think she's great, she seems to have a good head on her shoulders!" Then he asks what do I think about my daughter getting married to her? I reply, "I think it's great that she's finally happy, she seems good for her." Then he asks, "what do think about them having a baby?" (Now what I'm about to say, I've said to my daughter, along with her father) I reply, "I think she's too young (just turned 19 this month), we'd like to see them wait until they can get a place of their own and have they finances in order....but we are happy for them (they are living with my s.d. mother). Then my nephew asks, "what do you think about her being gay?" (Again, this what both me and her father have to our daughter) Who cares, she's happy! I can't say that we weren't surprised, but we are happy if they are. Now, to let you in on the "surprised" part of that last sentence. She told us she was bi when she was 15, but never dated a girl...in fact we had to put a lock on her window, because she was sneaking out to meet older men. Her dad almost put one of those adult men in jail, until he saw the texts she was sending him.
Anyways that was the whole of the conversation and my m.i.l. was sitting at the kitchen table. A week goes by and my s.d. girlfriend says they want to come by for dinner. My husband ends up canceling dinner, because he just got into town & is tired. But as far as we know, nothing is going on we are all still friends & happy. A week later goes by & my s.d. receives multiple texts from a friend on my husbands phone...So, I let my s.d. know about it on her facebook, no big deal, done it before...my s.d reply's & says ok, thanks I got the number. Next thing I know her mom is blowing up on me on the facebook post! Confused, I call my husband and in turn he calls my s.d. and asks what's up? My s.d told him that I told her cousin (my nephew) that I hated her g.f., that they shouldn't get married, they shouldn't have kid's and that's why she left early on Easter. Her dad told her to knock of the b.s. and told her we wouldn't of gave your g.f. our permission to marry you if we didn't. Well, my s.d. called up her cousin, told him I was interfering & have now turned her dad against her. Next thing I know her cousin is on my facebook calling me a "gay" hater & to mind my own business. So, now my s.d. won't answer the phone when her dad calls, only texts...she won't even come over. Her dad tried calling her gf & talking to her her, but she won't talk to him. And through all of this she has never asked me what I said, or if I've said it, haven't heard a peep from her. Really, what can we do? This isn't the first time & I know it wont be the last. Both her dad and grandma says, "just wait, it will be awhile, but she'll show up at the front door and act like nothing ever happened!" Advice please....
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