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That doesn't make sense does it ? That is basically what is happening and it is making me so upset.
I have 2 sons who are now both married and both have 2 children each ... I admit that I do spend alot of time with my older sons family ( his wife and I talk all the time on the phone and I go to their house or they come here atleast 4 or 5 times a week) ....
I would LOVE to have that same kind of relationship with my other son and his little family but I cant - I have tried - but right now I can't.
I know it is his fault also, but I do place alot of blame on his wife.... She has NEVER wanted anyone in our family to have anything to do with "her"children... everything I have bought for them she has literally thrown away ( even toys and clothes for the kids) , everytime I call to see the kids or invite them here or something she will say they dont have time ( and on more than one occasion she will make a facebook post shortly after she tells me that, talking about how bored she is or she has nothing to do ) , A couple times I have just shown up since I was on that side of town and all of a sudden she will have somewhere to go ( even if they are sitting around watching tv or lounging in their pjs) and she just acts really rude telling me to leave point blank and literally pushing me out of the door. They have never invited me to birthday parties... I had to ask around so I would know when to show up ... The list goes on and on.
Then , my son will get mad that I dont spend time with them... I try to explain that it is hard to when I am told that I am not welcome and that I cant spend time with them... i dont even know what i did to make her like that.... I want to spend time with them more than anything, but I just feel it is not my part to do that now... I have spent YEARS trying to see them, and yet I get yelled at, cussed at, and pushed away and THEN , get him telling me he is so upset that I dont ... It doesnt even make sense and it drives me insane.
And i will admit sometimes I might be a bit pushy, that is probably what annoyed her in the beginning.... but I think the fact that NO ONE else has a problem with me except her... BUT there are SEVERAL people ( in our family and in hers) who have disowned her because of how she treats them also.... I think that is saying alot about who is really causing this problem.
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