A couple weeks ago I made a post talking about this, but now my husband has switched sides and making me feel like a horrible person... I just want to know who is really right ?
My inlaws are older, nice people... I really love my MIl and FIL. My husband has 3 older siblings, they are all druggies and drunks, and MIL and FIl have raised his brothers kids.
One of them is my age ( 23) and the others are younger.
There was a time when my husband tried to take the 23 y/o "under his wing" and tried to get him to live the right kind of life....he even stayed with us alot of times... The last time he stayed with us we could tell he was taking some kind of drug ( he would keep going to the bathroom, and shortly after he would act funny and would look a mess) .... we both said at that time he would never be back in our house.
FIL constantly complains about him, he causes trouble FIL SEEN him selling drugs in their driveway and he always has people coming to the house looking for him to beat him up, and he has stolen tons and tons of money from them and FIL has suffered several health problems due to the stress that he is causing. MIL takes up for him and wont kick him out because she says he has no where to go.
2 weeks ago my husband was there with our kids out in the yard... he SEEN him basically do a drug deal right in front of them ( the car pulled up he gave the driver something, the driver handed him something and then drove off) ....
I told my husband that was it and we would NOT go back there until he is kicked out of the house... his mom and dad could come here or we could meet at places ( like parks or restraunts) but we would no go back....They have all said that they know the house is being watched by the police, how could we even risk being there and how could MIl be so blind to risk losing the younger grandkids... My husband was on my side and said he told her we were not coming down until he was completely moved out. We figured this would also help FIL by giving her the nudge to do so.
Today my husband said something about " when we go there next weekend" ... I said " did she kick him out yet" and he said " no, he is being good now, he has even been cleaning the house and hasnt been going anywhere" ...
i cannot believe my husband is so dumb.... MIL is probably saying that so we would come down and also.... it has been less than 2 weeks... a drug addict doesnt recover just like that... not to mention the other day MIL told my husband ( on the phone) that he had been gone all day with this one kid that has been to jail several times for drugs....
I told my husband not to be surprised when we dont go next weekend... or even that he can go but me and the kids will not go, I even offered to make a big dinner for them to come here... but he is throwing a fit now....
Now am I the one in the wrong here or is he ?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:00 PM on May. 18, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 11:04 PM on May. 18, 2011
Answer by LeJane at 11:13 PM on May. 18, 2011
STAND your ground tell him if he wants to go fine you and the kids wont be do not let your children be there you are endangering your children what if he makes the wrong person mad and they do a drive by? would you rather piss off you husband or attend your child's funeral?
sorry I'm being so harsh but I'd bet that he'll change his tune if you put it to him that way
or ask him who's gonna raise our kid's when we are both in jail because of a bust and they seize all property where are your parents going to live when the cops confiscate their home cars and everything else because it's a known drug selling residence?
Answer by traren at 11:13 PM on May. 18, 2011
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