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First how many believe in spare the rod you spoil the child[2]i raised 3 very active boys who are now all grown,although i was married i was still a single mother.i spank my boys and when they got older i whop their butts.and they tell me that they thank me for this because ani't no telling how they would be now if i hadn't did this.my question is how many of you whop your now adult kids when they were younger.and those that didn't do you wish that you had

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MADUKES402

Asked by MADUKES402 at 11:40 AM on May. 20, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • I didn't...and don't wish I had.
    MrsMWF

    Answer by MrsMWF at 11:41 AM on May. 20, 2011

  • I'm butting in here b/c I don't have adult children, but I got "beat" lol and it's what I needed when I was younger. (I'm 28 now) My mom always said 2 of us needed a whoopin and 2 of them needed their feelings hurt and they got it.
    yesmaam

    Answer by yesmaam at 11:46 AM on May. 20, 2011

  • I have never hit my children and I do not regret my decision.
    gemgem

    Answer by gemgem at 12:00 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • I never spanked my children ever and they are now well adjusted adults without the rod! I could not be prouder of how they came out if I tried!
    older

    Answer by older at 3:22 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • I have never regretted not spanking my children. I have 2 adult and 2 teen children and they are all good "kids" so to speak.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 9:16 AM on May. 21, 2011

  • yes i have an 18 year old in college never spanked him hes a real good kid never had a problem not spoiled either
    n740

    Answer by n740 at 12:06 AM on May. 22, 2011

  • I was abused and never spanked my sons and do not regret it
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 2:35 PM on May. 22, 2011

  • i got hit when i was younger, i'm okay. i did spank my kids when they were younger and would continue to do so if had younger ones. i dont' see any harm so long as you aren't beatin them. a little spanking doesn't hurt. some kids need it nowadays. kids nowadays have no manners, morals or respect for anyone.
    lucky35

    Answer by lucky35 at 2:52 PM on May. 25, 2011

  • I hate to admit that I did spank my oldest when he was younger though I learned very quickly that it did absolutely no good; it wouldn't stop the behavior AND it only made him more angry and defiant so I changed my methods. I remained a very strict (my friends say overly strict) parent with punishment and consequences and he is the most mature, good, responsible 18-year old I could ever hope for. The teen years have been a breeze with this one.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:03 AM on May. 27, 2011

  • "Spare the rod..." doesnt even have anything to do with spanking. In a Bible study course I took and when i researched it...that verse in the original Hebrew means that if you dont guide your child then thier future is ruined. The "rod" was a tool used by shepherds to gently show sheep the way. The rod was NEVER used to hit the sheep. This verse is widely misinterpreted.

    I was spanked and I think it is stupid. I have never touched my daughter and never will and she is very well behaved. There are better ways to teach then by hitting.
    amber710

    Answer by amber710 at 12:04 PM on May. 27, 2011

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