So, I had this friend. She wasn't always the most optimistic person, but she always helped me think realistically...for the most part. She used to be the first person I would go to when my husband and I were having problems. She was really good about letting me vent and keeping her opinion out of it. This changed quickly and it became very disheartening.
About 3 weeks ago I told her that my husband and I had started counseling and that the main reason we are going is because we can't seem to communicate well lately. She pretty much felt the need to speak her mind and not hold back...she told me that him and I fight like high school kids and that we need "to grow up." She then went on to say that maybe we (dh and I) should take up drinking or smoking pot so that we can calm down and have a discussion! Okay, we don't drink, and she knows this, so for her to suggest this to me just blew me away!! I didn't say anything about her comment regarding that, but I did tell her I didn't think she knew my husband or I well enough to tell us how we argue and that we need to grow up.
Anyway, she said she aplogized if she upset me and the conversation ended there. I didn't say anything else, and I haven't spoken to her since. She has commented on a few of my posts on Facebook, but I haven't acknowledged it. She hasn't tried texting or calling me like she used to either, so I think she knows she has upset me.
Part of me feels bad that I have just been ignoring her, but honestly, after that last conversation, I have decided that I don't need a "friend" who would suggest such bizarre things to "help" my marriage! Was I wrong to end our friendship over this? Should I explain to her why I don't feel the need to converse with her anymore or even hang out with her anymore??
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