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What is better to do if child is doing wrong and know it?

spank them, put them in time out, anything that would help that situation.

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Asked by Alimaya20 at 10:15 PM on May. 20, 2011 in General Parenting

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  • time out 1 minute per age.....

    Answer by LeJane at 10:15 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • What LeJane said.

    Answer by beckie66 at 10:17 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • so if there 5 just put them there for 5 minute Ok i will see how that goes

    Comment by Alimaya20 (original poster) at 10:18 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • Neither. If a child is doing something they know they shouldn't, but they are chosing to do it anyway, you need to think about why they are making that choice!! Considering things from the child's perspective, and looking at their motives, can make a world of difference in your parenting, and you can become a better parent with better behaved kids and have a closer relationship with them. Parenting effectively is NOT about control. It's about nurturing, loving, guiding, and connecting emotionally and psychologically with your child. Sometimes a child will "misbehave" (ie. make a choice we would prefer they didn't make) in order to get attention because they are bored or lonely or feeling isolated. Don't punish that. Kids are needy, they require a lot of time, attention and love, and they will not grow into healthy happy adults unless they get a lot of your time and loving attention.

    Answer by judimary at 10:20 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • i got 3 kids and having twins and i can't give them all the same kind of care of give the youngest or the oldest are the most favorite so one more question if you can't give them the care you want to give all them how do you get your time to make them all happy and give them all the same amount of care?

    Comment by Alimaya20 (original poster) at 10:25 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • I have six kids and they all feel loved all the time. You just have to organise your priorities around your kids and their needs. Punishment is never a good idea. They need understanding and care. You may not always have time to do something one of them wants you to do, but if you make an honest effort to be there for them when you can, treat them always with respect, they will learn patience and they will also become loving, kind, tolerant people.

    Answer by judimary at 10:37 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • See, punishment, whether it's a beating or a time-out, makes your child feel angry, resentful, isolated from you. If instead you respond with a verbal reprimand accompanied with an explanation of why you think they made a poor choice or did something you think they shouldn't have decided to do, then you can make real progress in teaching them to make good choices and to make them for good reasons. "Holding a grown-ups hand to cross the road because it's safe" is infinitely better than teaching him to "hold your hand so he doesn't get his ass kicked". Know what I mean?

    Answer by judimary at 10:41 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • oh well my daughter already been beating by her dad 100's of times and learned her lesson because she didn't live with me at first now her dad died so now she feels angry about that and unhappy at times cause i only had her for almost a year but just months, But my friend said beating them sometimes don't make them mad at you that make them know you love them but don't like what your doing and they need to respect it sometimes.

    Comment by Alimaya20 (original poster) at 10:49 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • Beating is never OK.

    Answer by beckie66 at 10:50 PM on May. 20, 2011

  • Beating a child shows them you love them? Are you serious? Your friend's a moron.

    It's not even about them doing what you like or don't like. You need to teach them to make well-considered intelligent choices for themselves.

    It sounds like your daughter has had a rough start to life, but that doesn't justify you continuing to mistreat her. If you feel you're not coping well, seek help! You don't even need to take parenting classes, you can educate yourself thanks to Google. Look up "positive parenting".

    Answer by judimary at 11:00 PM on May. 20, 2011

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