My SO and I live together, and we are moving to a new house. We had many discussions during which it was decided that I would not work. Now, comments are being made that are annoying me and making me uncomfortable. For example, I told him that he needed to sign the lease, and his response was, "well, of course. I'm paying for it." And this comes up a lot. He'll saying something about paying for something and not being able to use it in respect to the house or items for it or something like that.
Now, I understand he is the one working and earning the money so yes, he is paying for it. But the comments make me feel like I'm supposed to ask permission to spend any money. Yet he spends money all the time without talking to me, even though we have bills to pay. And I'm supposed to be responsible for paying the bills, but he makes me feel, with these comments, like I can't tell him his spending is interfering with paying our bills.
I was married years ago, and though my ex and I had a horrible relationship, he worked and I stayed home and he never made me feel like this - it was always our money.
So I don't know if I'm making more of his comments than I should or if I have a legitimate reason to be annoyed and uncomfortable.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:17 PM on May. 21, 2011 in Relationships
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