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Will hiding their baby's gender really accomplish anything?

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When Storm was born, the couple sent an email to friends and family: “We've decided not to share Storm's sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm's lifetime (a more progressive place? ...).”

Their announcement was met with stony silence. Then the deluge of criticisms began. Not just about Storm, but about how they were parenting their other two children.

The grandparents were supportive, but resented explaining the gender-free baby to friends and co-workers. They worried the children would be ridiculed. Friends said they were imposing their political and ideological values on a newborn. Most of all, people said they were setting their kids up for a life of bullying in a world that can be cruel to outsiders.

Witterick and Stocker believe they are giving their children the freedom to choose who they want to be, unconstrained by social norms about males and females. Some say their choice is alienating.

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Full story here:

http://www.parentcentral.ca/parent/babiespregnancy/babies/article/995112--parents-keep-child-s-gender-secret

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NotPanicking

Asked by NotPanicking at 9:26 PM on May. 21, 2011 in Parenting Debate

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Answers (33)
  • why couldn't they just say 'they're not trying to find out' people are so stupid
    sophistcatdfury

    Answer by sophistcatdfury at 9:30 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • Wow... that is something new. Just when you thought you heard everything, something new enters the realm. Thanks for sharing!
    m-avi

    Answer by m-avi at 9:30 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • I think those parents need to be evaluated.
    greenbeanmoma

    Answer by greenbeanmoma at 9:30 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • why couldn't they just say 'they're not trying to find out' people are so stupid

    The baby is already born. Finding out has nothing to do with it - did you read the article?
    NotPanicking

    Comment by NotPanicking (original poster) at 9:32 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • Is the couple gay?
    Just wondering...
    SeasideNative

    Answer by SeasideNative at 9:32 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • Don't even want to read the article.
    SeasideNative

    Answer by SeasideNative at 9:33 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • Kathy and David, with 2 kids already who have their genders "known" by others.
    NotPanicking

    Comment by NotPanicking (original poster) at 9:33 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • It won't accomplish anything good. Even if, by some miracle, everyone they encountered had an open mind and was willing to accept this without looking at them cross-eyed, the child will still be an "outsider". This will be a very large and very difficult secret to keep. Can you imagine trying to coach your child in what he/she can and cannot say, making sure they stay fully clothed in front of everything, etc. It will crumble, and it won't take long. In order to keep the child's gender a secret, they'd literally have to keep it in the house. I guess I just don't understand the effort, here. You can do what YOU want to do for your child (raise them in a gender-neutral environment) but you can't control society, and trying to is only going to cause heartache.
    DusterMommy

    Answer by DusterMommy at 9:42 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • in front of *everyone
    DusterMommy

    Answer by DusterMommy at 9:44 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • I guess I missed this??? Maybe ....... No I just don't get it.
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 9:53 PM on May. 21, 2011

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