DH and I have almost been married 3 years. He was deployed for our second year of marriage. We have a 20 month old son, and I am 27 weeks pregnant with our second boy.
DH goes out about once a month. Him going out isnt an issue, he goes out with his friends to bars and that would be fine if he could be responsible. Last night he went out with a good friend of ours. I picked them up at 11 because DH had 24 hr duty today. In 5 hrs, DH drank enough to get to the point where he was passed out in the front seat of our car. I dropped his friend off at his house, and got DS (I was hanging out with his wife and child) and we went home after I stopped to get DH some food. DS was wide awake and I gave him a snack because he didnt eat much dinner (we're rarely out past his bedtime). DH was stumbling up the stairs in our garage, finally made it to the couch, and passed out eating his food. DS saw him like that....
I get DS to bed, then come and try to get DH to bed, but he is incoherent. He was black out drunk. I finally told him I would wake him up in the morning and went to sleep.
DS had night terrors at about 3, I had to pee at 5, and had to get DH up at 7. I got about 3 hrs of sleep total. I woke him up, and he didnt remember a thing.
Last night was mild. On nights when he goes out with his buddies and has a DD, he doesnt get home until 5-6am. I have tried talking with him about it, and every time he gets upset and tells me I dont want him to have fun. We're broke right now because some unforseen things came up with our vehicle and so we're trying to build our account back up.
DH has about 1000 dollars in cash saved in our room. Its his "motorcycle fund". DS needs summer clothes, I need new pants because I outgrew mine. He wont give me money for either, yet he can take money out and go drink?
I am tired. I am 1800 miles from family. I cant work because we have one vehicle and his work schedule sucks. So I'm not sure where to go. Any suggestions are welcome.... please dont bash.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:30 PM on May. 21, 2011 in Relationships
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