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Is it ok...

to cry and want to morn over your ex. Tuesday my little 2 year old girl's father took his own life. I feel like I just want to cry and cry. But at the same time I feel like I am not allowed to cry because I was the one who called our relationship off. I am also wondering maybe I just want to cry because my own mother did the same to herself when I was ten.

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Asked by iluvmymomasboys at 9:31 PM on May. 21, 2011 in Relationships

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  • of course it is, just because you are no longer with someone doesn't mean that you didn't love them. I'm sorry for your loss

    Answer by peanutsmommy1 at 9:32 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • You're human, it's okay to have those feelings.

    Answer by buzymamaof3 at 9:32 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • thats absolutely normal. i'm sorry for your loss.

    Answer by ArmyWifeAshlie at 9:32 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • of course it is ok
    sorry for your loss

    Answer by fiatpax at 9:32 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • Totally okay to mourn. Just because you didn't want to date him, doesn't mean you wanted him dead. Have your healthy greiving, and don't feel guilty for it.

    Answer by Dkhilly at 9:34 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • cry away. if you feel it, do it!

    Answer by mykidsmom86 at 9:41 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • so sorry for your loss. it is always ok to cry and mourn if you need to.

    Answer by elizabiza at 9:47 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • if you need to cry cry it's normal

    Answer by mamawilbur at 9:49 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • I'm sorry for your loss - it's ok to cry and mourn; in fact, it's natural. Since it happened to you with your mom you are probably reliving her loss all over again, plus in addition to mourning for yourself you're also mourning your daughter's loss as well. Take it easy on yourself and don't be afraid to find someone to talk to or seek out help if you need it. Big Hugs to you and your daughter

    Answer by pocmom at 10:05 PM on May. 21, 2011

  • I am sure it is mostly because your daughter is now without a father, and you know the pain from your own experience.

    What happened was not in your control.

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 10:32 PM on May. 21, 2011

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