I'm a kindergarten teacher and, on Friday, one of my students, a little girl named Abby, came to class looking upset and, a during lunch, she burst into tears and so I picked her up and let her sit with me. Once I got her calmed down, all she told me was that she missed her daddy. I called her mother in for a meeting Friday afternoon, to tell her what had happened. She said that, Monday night her husband told her that he was leaving her for another woman. He told her left the house shortly after she put Abby and their nine year old son to bed and he didn't even say goodbye to the children. Abby wanted to talk to him so her mother called him Thursday at the hotel he was staying at and let him talk to the children. Abby was upset and crying because she missed him and he promised he would come and eat lunch with her on Friday, but he didn't show up. She called him, after I called her, guessing what the problem was, and he said that something else came up and that he didn't really want to have lunch with her. He just said that so she'd stop crying.
She has tried to explain it to her kids but Abby is having such a hard time with it. She wants me to talk to Abby on Monday and see if she'll listen to me. She thinks that, maybe hearing it from someone who isn't so upset herself will help. This is only my first year teaching and I don't know what to say to this little girl. I've never dealt with divorce in my personal life and I don't understand it either. I don't know how a man can stand in a delivery room and watch his babies come into the world, help them learn to walk and talk, and hold them in his arms and rock them and tuck them in and read to them and kiss them goodnight and play with them and worry and pray for them and then, one day, decide that he doesn't want to be their father anymore. Even if you fall out of love with your wife, how do you stop loving your kids? How can a man look at a sweet little girl like Abby and disappoint her like that.
I don't know what to say to her. Has anyone else had a man do this to them? What did you tell your children? I told her I would talk to her and I want to help but I have no experience on this matter.
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