My DH's mother-in-law has been in the habit for awhile now of calling DH on a daily basis, many times several times in a day. One of the reasons is she's concerned about his health and eating (he's anorexic b/c he has troubles eating in the mornings. He has several doctors appointments in a month and she calls for EVERY SINGLE ONE to remind him of it. Hellooooo, he has a wife??? Anyways her calling gets on my nerves and one day when she called I let my irritation show through in my voice, though not intentionally. She bitched to DH and he jumped down my throat. But when SHE called yesterday I answer and she goes "Put #%$ on the phone please" no hello, no nothing, which I felt was rude. I mentioned it to my neighbor who is a new friend of mine. Neighbor felt it was rude but when I was talking to DH about the call she said I should "pick my battles" and that it's no big deal in the whole scheme of things. But she has also told me she thinks mummy calls too much and that SHE was rude on the phone but never said any of that to DH.
Where my irritation is coming from is when I've talked to DH before (we had a recent incident where she acted like a bitch over a 6-hour-round-tip-ride cuz DH had to go out of his way-she hung up on him and then texts "dont bother-I'll just find someone I can depend on" She has a truck she has just bought btw-just couldn't be bothered to drive that). What DH told me for both is he doesn't want to cause conflict with mother and he wants to be on "good terms" with her...which I understand to a point but does it honestly mean we're stuck being her doormat for the next 20 or more years??? How can I encourage DH to set boundaries with her?
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