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Does your preschooler talk about your death?

Everyday for a little while now she tells me I'm going to die. Not in a mean way, just as a fact. At first I agreed and told her everyone does eventually. Now she mentions it everyday. She sometimes says when she gets bigger I will die and I won't see her babies. This totally freaks me out.

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Asked by camiam81 at 5:13 PM on May. 22, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Hm my 3yo mentions death but not in the same way. Mine has never said that someone will die much less things like I'll never see her babies!

    My daughter will play with her figures & pretend one of them is dead or if she is trying to play with you & your not making your character talk back to hers she'll say "guess he's dead then". She also talks about people living on clouds bc when Nana passed I explained how she now has a house up on a cloud (helped to give my daughter a visual of where/what) so she'll talk about people having houses on clouds etc.

    Answer by Mel30248 at 5:17 PM on May. 22, 2011

  • Wow. Are your grandparents still living? That might show her that, "WOW, my grandparents might get to meet MY babies!" And it will show her that Mommy won't die for a long, long time. Even your parents would be a good example. I think elderly (family) would be best, though. I wouldn't recommend a nursing home because a lot of old people might freak her out. They do me...

    Answer by mrsjon at 5:17 PM on May. 22, 2011

  • Children will remember anything that they have heard. Have you asked her how does she know about death??

    Answer by MMXI at 5:20 PM on May. 22, 2011

  • Yep, there are 4 generations on my side and on her fathers side that she does get to see. We are working on the whole my mom is your grandma thing etc, how people are one thing to me and another to her.

    Comment by camiam81 (original poster) at 5:21 PM on May. 22, 2011

  • She knows about death because we live near a cemetary, she got all freaked out thinking it was like a scene from scooby doo. I tried to explain it that people die, it's normal and they are buried. We talked about it a bit, very generically.

    Comment by camiam81 (original poster) at 5:25 PM on May. 22, 2011

  • I used to tell my mom that all the time. I would tell her what things of hers I wanted when she died. I think it is just a phase kids go through.

    Answer by CometGirl at 8:37 AM on May. 23, 2011

  • My daughter says the same thing. I tell her I will be around for a very long time but if anything did happen she would be taken care of.

    Answer by Imaginaryfriend at 8:29 PM on May. 23, 2011

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