I've been dating this guy for a couple weeks now. I have a 2yo and he has 3yo twins & a 6yo. I love being able to go over his house and have all the kids playing, watching movies, etc. He is an awesome guy & his kids are great.
The first time I visited his house , I didn't mind that it was kinda messy. Toys were everywhere, crumbs were scattered about, and there was that slight stench of several young boys, but it was do-able. I cut him some slack, ya know? Single dad w/ 3 boys...I don't expect for the home to be spotless.
On another visit one of the boys was eating a half of a hamburger he found under the couch. I also stepped on a hard Kraft singles slice. Oh...and the rotten apple. That was nice. And when I went to the bathroom...ugh. My bladder must've known where I was because I couldn't for the life of me conjure up even a drop of urine to put in that cesspool of a toilet.
This last visit was even worse. There were throw blankets that reeked of urine. The toilet and the kitchen were both absolutely filthy. Every breath I inhaled I smelled every stench that was in that home.
He is clean. The kids are clean. It's just the house that's unbearable. I live in small apt that wouldn't accommodate all of us. Plus I'd rather not have 4 boys doing...things...on my carpet that would make it less than sanitary.
Us going out and doing stuff isn't always the easiest or most convenient...especially with an entourage of little people. I like hanging out at his house, especially b/c of the humongous backyard, but I can't stand how gross his house his. Do I tell him? Do I bring sheets so that I can sit on his furniture without getting skeeved out? Should I bring rubber gloves and Lysol? How did I tell him in a nice way that his house is nasty and that I'm uncomfortable being there? I really like him & his kids, but I can't be at his house like that when it's SO nasty!
Asked by Anonymous at 7:56 PM on May. 22, 2011 in Relationships
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