my little cousin is 17, going to be a senior in high school and has wanted to visit me for the longest (years) time. She lives in Texas with my aunt and the rest of my family is. She told me today that my aunt (her mom) is allowing her to finally come to Los Angeles (where I live) in June/July for up to a mth. My SO is a very antisocial person and hates letting people come over let alone stay the night I'm the opposite. He's working all the time and I'm a sahm so I don't see what's the big deal if she stays with us. He only has one day off a week if that so he's not een around enough to complain about her staying. She's too young to stay at a hotel in a place she's never been before and my aunt trust her (she a very good kid) and me enough to let her stay with me. He doesn't want her here more then a night. Every tine I visit Texas I stay with this particular aunt and it's always more then one night so I also feel it only right for her to be able to stay with us too. So now he said fine since you hav snot stayed at her house more then 5 days ten that's the longest she can stay, that really ticks me off! It just seems so childish and selfish of him. He needs to see the whole situation and realize she's young and is from Austin Texas not a big city like Los Angeles. I remember moving here from Austin Texas when I was a teenager and it's sooooo scary and different. So anyway I tried to tell him this but he just said fuck it do what you want. He always seems to hold me (and himself) from potentially fun situations because he is so antisocial and doesn't een like to be around his own friends for a night. And I'm tired of him doing this to me so I don't see what the big deal is. She can stay at my moms house (an hr away from me, it's her aunt) but my parents have my sister and her four young children living with her too. So not exactly ideal, besides the fact that my mom is rally abrasive and not easy to be around for long. Anyway what would you do? And just because she stays with us doesn't mean I'm asking that we pay for everything too. Anyway what to do?
Answer by amessageofhope at 12:12 AM on May. 23, 2011
Answer by PsychicSherry at 11:14 PM on May. 22, 2011
I personally think a month is a bit long. Is she just planning to come and hang out or does her visit have purpose (visiting colleges, looking for a job, etc.)? I assume you have children and responsibilities of your own as well and adding more to that for a month may seem like a good idea but it may not be that great after a week or two I think you owe it to your SO to come to a compromise you both can live with. He has made some concessions, maybe you can too.
Answer by SDJenn at 11:17 PM on May. 22, 2011
Answer by Rosehawk at 11:30 PM on May. 22, 2011
Answer by Princess_s21 at 12:16 AM on May. 23, 2011
Answer by PsychicSherry at 11:32 PM on May. 22, 2011
Answer by asscrack at 11:14 PM on May. 22, 2011