He and his 2 siblings has been with us for about 1&1/2 yrs now. He is a very bright, sweet child but is very high strung and when he is told no, sometimes that is ok but for the most part it is a my way or no way fight. I have 4 other kids in our house so its not just a normal child not wanting to do something. We have hitting, screaming, chair throwing, tantrums for 1/2 hr -3hrs. We have a journal everyday to school and he has made improvements and his teacher has been very good working with him but we fear as he gets older that he will hurt someone and kids are starting to not forgive his behavior and don't want to play with him. I would love to hear from anyone else dealing with this.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:36 AM on May. 23, 2011 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
Answer by techgirl3 at 9:45 AM on May. 23, 2011
Answer by techgirl3 at 9:46 AM on May. 23, 2011
Answer by sugamama3 at 9:53 AM on May. 23, 2011
I don't have this situation, but I know what you are talking about (my older sister adopted several children with severe behaviors & today they most likely would be diagnosed with RAD, reactive attachment disorder) and I wanted to recommend a book by Heather T. Forbes (a therapist who works exclusively helping families dealing with the extreme behaviors of RAD and early childhood trauma)
I fully believe you that your little boy is bright & sweet (not a bad kid) but that his behaviors & reactions can be extreme. The more you can make sense of what is happening & why, and how best to respond (and not respond)
There is a website associated with the book/author (I think it might be beyondconsequences.com) and I know they have a forum for discussion & support among parents (with a wide variety of experience/familiarity/proficiency with the approach) you can join.
I hope this is a helpful suggestion.
Answer by sstepph at 4:27 PM on Jun. 10, 2011