Take things slow. If it were me I would think Dad should introduce you as his friend, and while the kids are around in the beginning I think you should refrain from being overly affectionate with each other- like you don't need to kiss and hold hands while the kids are watching because it will make them uncomfortable. No one wants to watch their parents make out, let alone their parent with a girlfriend or boyfriend. Otherwise, just try to talk to them like you would to the kids of a friend. Ask about school or sports or dance, whatever things they are interested in, try to do fun things with them if you can. Don't talk about the future or anything like that, just try to have fun in the moment and get to know them and let them get to know you. Try to plan activites at first to break the ice, like going bowling or playing board games for the night. And be nice to their dad in front of them and that should win you some points.
at 4:10 PM on May. 23, 2011