My SO works long, hard hours. While many women are accustomed to men who want sex all of the time, or look at porn, etc, my SO is the opposite. I have to seduce HIM!, and get HIM in the mood most of the time (which is only ever on the weekends, if I'm lucky). I know it's because of work b/c when he's on vacation there's no problem...but he also had quite the sex life in his 20's so it's almost like he "oversexed" himself (he's 32 now, I'm 24). When we have it, it's great, but there's soooo many nights I'm turned down and it gets frustrating.
Eventually I start to feel like maybe if I was hotter he'd want it more..which I know sounds silly and insecure, but it's tough. He knows how I feel too, we've talked about it- but he says he's fine with me pleasing myself when I want it, and I should get over the insecure part (he literally says it like that, not all reassuring or anything).
So guess this is more of a vent than question...but any advice on how I should deal with it? He doesn't get that I get tired of doing it with myself and I just wish he was the one seducing me sometimes...
Asked by Anonymous at 4:20 PM on May. 23, 2011 in Relationships
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