I'm attempting to gain a little insight into a situation I am currently witnessing right now and want to help my sister in need because she refuses to really ask anyone for help. I'll set up the situation for you. My sister in this situation is "Jane".
"Bob and Jane are married to one another. They have two children, one of whom is from Jane's previous marriage and whom she has full custody of due to her ex-husband's inability to provide financially and emotionally for the child. However, they have been having relationship issues stemming from Jane's depression from recent events that have gone on with her personally. Gregg, Jane's ex-husband, is seeing a woman by the name of Mary. Mary has been friends with Bob for a long while and introduced her to Jane, his wife. She also has been in contact with Jane's son, Christopher, during visitation and has grown quite fond of the child. The two women get along very well as both men get along. Mary sits down with Jane and helps her with her depression, guiding her through it. After a while, Jane is finally back on her feet and doing very well. Gregg and Mary have a fight and Jane, being Mary's friend, offers for her to stay with her and Bob until she is able to get back on her feet. After a few days, Gregg and Mary reconcile but Mary remains living in the house with Jane and Bob.
The other day, Mary informed Jane that Bob had sent her a text message telling her that he was beginning to have feelings for her but the text message was several weeks old. She also informs her that Bob has been sending her messages, asking her to go out with him. Jane gets upset and asks Mary to what extent the messages have gone. Mary sends a text to Bob, indicating that she and Gregg have gotten into a fight and asks Bob if he would still like to be with her. Bob responds that he would like to. This continues for some time, each message being shown to Jane.
Jane gets in contact with Bob while he is away for work and asks him about the text messages. He owns up to the content of the messages and then informs her that he and Mary were sexually intimate with one another several weeks before. Jane, being Mary's friend, wants to talk to her on the matter calmly and patiently so sends her a text message letting her know that she knows what happened and when Mary wishes to talk to her on the matter, she will be open to speak with her. She also informs Mary that she will not tell Gregg, Mary's boyfriend, about the incident as it was not her place. Bob tells Jane that he is willing to do whatever it takes to make things right with her and she agrees to give him that chance as they had been together for several years without a single incident like this before.
However, Mary, in turn, sends a message to Jane denying anything that happened while sending Bob text messages, berating him for telling Jane what had happened between the two of them. She also informs Bob that she will not jeopardize her relationship with Gregg by telling him about the events that happened between herself and Bob and becomes beligerent, calling Jane profane names and insulting her parenting. Bob shows Jane the text messages and tells Jane that he will no longer be in contact with Mary. At Jane's request, Bob informs Mary that she is not allowed to be at their home and that she is also not permitted to be around her son, Christopher. He also informs her that he will not contact her further, that neither he nor Jane will inform Gregg about what happened, and to have a nice life. Mary responded that it wasn't Jane's decision whether or not she could see Christopher, Jane's son with Gregg, and informed both Bob and Jane that she would continue to visit with the child.
Now, Jane has full custody of Christopher and Gregg only sees Christopher when he calls Jane and requests visitations. He has to go over to Jane's house to see their son and does not know about Mary having cheated on him nor about Mary becoming beligerent with Jane and Bob regarding the cheating issue."
My sister wants to do anything and everything humanly possible to keep "Mary" away from her son and also away from her home. She also wants to work things out with "Bob" and he's been literally doing EVERYTHING she's asked of him to prove that he loves her. (And I do mean everything) They have been married for 5 years and together as a couple for 9 years and this was the first incident of "Bob" ever cheating and his admitted it outright without hiding it. So any advice you ladies would have for her would be appreciated. I just don't want to see her end up in her depression again after she finally came out of it.
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