ok so i need some advice my husband and i have een together for 15 yrs ,4 boys 13yr,10yr old,4yr old and 2 yr old. not the happiest yrs of my life hes controlling some and insecure and sometimes even damn right mean.well in the last 4yrs too ive had gut feelings he even was cheating on me.well anyway we been fighting alot and me acusing him of cheating he went behind my back got an apt and i found out and said what r u waiting for get out.im so angry and mad he abandoned us esp me with being a stay at home mom.im so angry but i miss him so much and ive been actin like i dont care just speakin to him about bills or kids.i cant help feeling like he left me for another women i guesse bc it actually would be less hurtful then admitting we failed at our marriage i asked for counseling but he refuses.idk what to do?should i fight for this man or not ?will that just push him away further? i thought he would atleast want booty calls nope not even that im so confused.its been 16 days since hes left and im dying inside it hurts so badAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:18 PM on May. 24, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 11:22 PM on May. 24, 2011
Kick his ass out!! Tell him if he wants to stay married he can go to counseling or get out... and be done with it!! If he's not going to try why stay with him and be miserable!!
Answer by Anonymous at 11:27 PM on May. 24, 2011
Answer by roxsanne1975 at 11:28 PM on May. 24, 2011
Answer by mamaofficer at 11:29 PM on May. 24, 2011
If he's out, and wants to come back tell him counseling is the condition to his returning!
Then also go for some individual counseling for your self. Go and talk to a professional that can help you sort it all out.
Answer by Crafty26 at 11:39 PM on May. 24, 2011
Answer by MommyMJean at 11:43 PM on May. 24, 2011
I agree 100% with MommyMJean. Just take a step back and look at what you've said as if someone else wrote it. Now think of what advice you would give to them. In you're heart you know what you need to do and what should be done, you're just looking for any shred of hope that the opposite could happen. You don't need us telling you what you should do
Answer by mrsziemann at 1:08 AM on May. 25, 2011