So in helping my son finish his bobcat requirments we had to go thorugh a list of "what if's". These are what if someone wants to touch your or see you naked type situations. This is not the first time we have had the "good touch bad touch" talk. We have had it quite often. One of the questions were about people offering rides. We went over a list of who is okay and everyone else is not unless I say otherwise.
I was molested as a child. we live in the same city as my abuser (my dad). My son does know my dad. he has met him a few times at family functions. My mom and dad are not to be alone with my kids... period. If I am not around, they cannot be around my kids. My mom was abusive, and my dads enabler (she still does not believe what happened). I told him that grandma and grandpa were not allowed to pick him up or to be alone with him.
he asked why? He is only 7. I don't know if he is old enough to hear the truth. We have had the good touch bad touch talk, but I don't think he is ready to understand why we have that talk. I don't want to explain to him what molestation is, or have to explain what happened to me.
What would you do?
Answer by Kathy675 at 11:51 PM on May. 24, 2011
Answer by SMITxsM2 at 1:46 AM on May. 25, 2011
Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 8:42 AM on May. 25, 2011
I would answer your son, but not necessarily tell him the whole truth. You can say that grandpa has done some bad things to other kids and that you don't want him to have the opportunity to do the same things to your child. You don't have to connect it to a good touch/bad touch discussion.
Answer by JSD24 at 10:14 AM on May. 25, 2011
Answer by riotgrrl at 11:36 AM on May. 25, 2011