I am my Asperger's son advocate. I went to his IEP meeting with lots of questions because I wanted to understand exactly what was going on with my child. I called a group called Families Helping Families because I did feel that they were covering his social skills needs. When the school found out the principal was so freaked out because I had sent off for measurable progress to the Special Education Department. After the IEP meeting which had the principal sitting in and a resource teacher that wouldn't listen to my conerns or didn't undertstand what I was asking I called the head of the Special Education to department to ask if I was wrong in seeking more social when the schools on evaluation made it a priority. She said she would have the Austism coordinator come in and speak with the teachers and watch Aidan to help make reccommendations and work on any changes he needed.
I told both the head of Special Education and the Austism Coordinator I just was seeking their help and didn't want this to become a negative with the school. That the all teachers involved with my son had shown extra care with him and his I was extremely happy with the school. Just concerned that maybe they weren't understanding his need for social as well as academic help.
After the IEP meeting and talk with the Austism Coordinatoor my sister-in-law went to the school. The principal went on and on about and said she had had it up to here.(Hands all the way above head) and said,"They had worked really hard with Aidan this year and I just don't know if he'll get that next year."
I am shocked. Do I go above her head or do I try to talk to her although she seems so on the defensive she is not hearing me. I have no confidence in the school right now and what will happen next year. I just wanted to understand and get the fair suppports and services my son needs. I'm not sure what to do! Anyone else been through something like this?!
Answer by FootballMom85 at 10:25 AM on May. 25, 2011
What more are you asking for? What have they done so far with social skills that you don't feel it's enough? I think they can only do so much with an IEP. I wouldn't rely solely on any school to completely educate, or socialize my kid. How much socializing can they truly get when they do need to learn?
Do you have him involved in other activities outside of school?
Answer by Christine0813 at 10:28 AM on May. 25, 2011
Answer by girlglow6 at 10:39 AM on May. 25, 2011
I get it that social skills are important, but it sounds like this school was already going above and beyond with your child. If you want more, maybe you should go through the avenues of after school programs in your community or youth programs such as Scouts or Boys and Girls club. If I were the principal and thought we had done so much for your child and then you called starting trouble for the school I would be upset too. As for you talking with them, I think you have some relationship mending to do. The school staff probably feel betrayed by your actions.
Answer by scout_mom at 10:45 AM on May. 25, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 10:48 AM on May. 25, 2011
Schools don't understand the needs of kids with Aspergers. The way budgets are going is making this worse. DD is 14 and has Aspergers. She has no measurable goals with social skills.
Answer by JSD24 at 10:51 AM on May. 25, 2011
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Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 10:59 AM on May. 25, 2011
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