I really don't see how this is my fault....

I agree with you. What can you do? Maybe things will get better. I will pray for you.

It's not your fault, he does need to spend the time. Good luck mama

Until he makes that quality time a priority this will keep happening. If he spends time with her without you there the chances of her wanting to go to him will increase. My DH is away for work a lot, and when he comes home DD doesn't want to go to him. She is 2 1/2 and talks about missing him while he is gone but once he's home she holds back. If I leave to go do something it gives the two of them a chance to hang out without Mommy being there to run to. I am sure your DH's feelings of anger and really feelings of hurt, but you are right that it isn't your fault. That connection between the two of them is only something that he can make happen, you can't do it for him. Of course he is tired after work, and it's ok to come home and veg on the couch- for a bit. But then he needs to make some Daddy/Daughter time a priority, the relaxing can continue once your dd goes to bed. They're only little once, you only get one shot. GL!

Until he makes the sacrifice to spend quality time with her this isn't going to change. It's not your fault that you are being a caring parent and he's being a blob on the couch.

Men can be stupid sometimes.. I'm sorry - its hard when you have a child and your husband starts acting like one too :( Hugs

Been there...twice!! It's not your fault at all. Yeah, he may be tired when he gets home from work, but he still has to make time for your DD. If he's not willing to do that, then he has no right to blame you because she doesn't want to be with him.

That isn't your fault! It's his problem for not interacting with her more, your DD can't like him if she doesn't know him well enough yet.

Absolutely normal!
Also normal for hubby to try to play with her one day, not get the results he wants, get mopey and give up.

It gets easier as the kids get older

Baby is normal. Daddy needs to prove to her that he is NOT a Hairy Scary Beast who will EAT her.

I think that if DH wants DD to 'like' him and go to him HE has to make the effort to interact with her, read to her, play with her, and get to know her. Cause as it stands he is probably a 'stranger' to her and most little ones do show fear of strangers. Where Mommy is with her, and she feels safe with Mommy -so that is why she runs to you. There could be other factors about him that 'scare' her -- maybe he has a smell about him that she does not like, does he talk in a loud or angry voice? (my youngest was scared of my dad cause he has a big loud voice)... I would encourage him to sit down and interact with her, but not to push it, let her come to him. (maybe he could start building with blocks and "ignore"her and eventually she may get curious and go see what he is up to). It might take time, he needs to be calm and be patient. Good luck!