I am going through custody battles with my daughter's father. She is 22 months old and so far my lawyer, the Guardian from court, family and friends have all noted that he clearly is not ready to be a father. He complicates every situation to some degree, makes false accusations, puts forth enough parenting time to say/show he is a loving father, and to top it off he involves his current girlfriend/fiancée (on and off engagement) who has 2 kids of her own by playing mind games between the two of us. He is hurtful in his actions or lack there of at times in a way that comes off as a personal attack on me. He seems to be very angry with me for a reason I am still trying to figure out. I do not know how to get the childish games that are being played to stop. It is costing me money, time and slowly my sanity. How do you get someone to stop the hateful games and focus on the child and her needs from us as parents?
I have already taken the steps of legal action and as anyone who has done or is currently experiencing the court system, these things take time. Especially when the other party consistently continues the cases. (yes, caseS) I need help on how to properly handle the time in between each court hearing. I need to follow court order, maintain a positive attitude, always be the better person and so on. At the same time I am a human-being, a woman, and a single mother...I can only hold the plastic smile for so long and take so much.
Answer by kysmom091 at 11:12 PM on May. 25, 2011
Answer by EJKZ at 11:18 PM on May. 25, 2011
it's all according on what state you are in. it's crazy I know that you have to be the one to jump through the hoops but I'm very sorry to say it's just what you have to do try to get the judge to tighten up on visitation but remember you've got to deal with him for 17 -22 more years longer if she wants both of you in her life!!! so try to talk to him and well just keep it between ya'll it's easier that way I hate it when my SD's bm tries to put me in the middle!!!
Answer by traren at 11:23 PM on May. 25, 2011
Answer by amon333 at 11:32 PM on May. 25, 2011
Answer by kdwiegandt at 12:09 AM on May. 26, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 12:47 AM on May. 26, 2011
He needs to cooperate for things to works. The best parents are those who are on the same parenting page no matter what their relationship is with each other. Our county offers family mediation - where all parties get together and hash things out with the help of a trained mediator. It's a very low cost option as the county pays for most/all of it. They try to get things resolved in a long day - no continuances.
Answer by JSD24 at 9:27 AM on May. 26, 2011
Answer by EJKZ at 1:20 PM on May. 26, 2011