Ok. We go out every month or so. Because I can never find anything that he seems interested in I end up doing what he wants. Give and take right? So. when we go to a bar, club, casino, dancing, cards or sporting event he drinks. Not a lot. Never drunk, just tipsy. I don't drink often. Most drinks cause me to be depressed, antisocial and argumentative but if I push at it I become happy and social. A little more and I have functional blackouts. I can have coherent conversations, drive-whatever, but I have absolutely no recall. None. So unless I have someone at my side that is sober I only drink at home. Which I haven't done since before I was pregnant. (SO has never seen me like this. I learned my lesson early on and my two friends have told him stories about what we did when I was in that state.) Thing is it takes me a while to get to "happy & social" 6 to 8 drinks. SO doesn't seem to understand this and since he isn't a lightweight, he feels that he can have a drink or two so he can deal with me while I'm getting there. Having him drink while I am makes me uncomfortable.
But if I don't drink he does and he gets offended when I suggest that we both don't imbibe. He doesn't see it as a big deal. I feel like I'm being excluded as I cannot join in and being shy it is difficult for me to just start a conversation.
We do have fun when neither of us are drinking, so I don't know why he's having such an issue with this.
Or is it me with the issue? If this is a case where I just need to shut my mouth and deal let me know.
Answer by Ashes0813 at 3:20 AM on May. 26, 2011
Answer by Ms.Gwen at 10:32 AM on May. 26, 2011
Answer by Ashes0813 at 9:33 PM on May. 26, 2011
Answer by miss_lisa at 9:39 PM on May. 26, 2011
Answer by miss_lisa at 10:12 PM on May. 26, 2011