So, I need help. Ok, we have a birthmother who, decided she didn't have the money to parent and she, on her own free will, relinquished her child. Well, she buys them EXPENSIVE items, named brand clothing, high priced shoes (this is an infant), etc.
Is this okay? As the Ap, I feel odd and uncomfortable about all of the lavish gifts. A gift or 2 for birthdays or holidays is fine. But if she relinquished because she couldn't handle the financial burden, why is she buying these extremely expensive things every week or so? I feel like she is trying to support him as one would do in child support...we don't need support, he has everything he needs.
We don't want to hurt her feelings by declining.
What should we do?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:46 PM on Dec. 8, 2008 in Adoption
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Answer by Anonymous at 7:11 PM on Dec. 8, 2008
That thing about her trying to show support is just ignorant.
She can't parent her child so maybe she feels the only way she can show her love is to buy presents. If you don't want to hurt her feelings by declining then don't.
Maybe you could return the gifts an buy her something you know she needs in return, like a gas card or a gift certificate to a local grocery store. Of course be sure to take a pic of your baby wearing what she bought first :) It'll probably wear off over time.
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