Condensed version; Our house is situated in a quiet, established neighborhood, our back yard borders neighboring property on the left and right, directly behind it is bordering a cemetery (which I just found out is property of the Antioch Church around the corner from us).
In the two years we have lived here, there have been several funerals (maybe a dozen? 2/3 of which were military). My children and dog spend most of their afternoons and weekend days in the back yard playing and I spend much time in the screened patio room. We've had to, several times, completely interrupt what we're doing, including entertaining company because of a funeral.
When we see that there is a service about to begin, we go inside to eliminate noise. Sometimes the mourners will stay until after the body is buried, even longer a couple of times- on 4 of those occasions, I was verbally accosted by them for being "Disrespectful' and allowing my children to go back outside. They literally walked over to my privacy fence and yelled/had a hissy!
On another occasion, we had mourners visiting the grave site several days after the funeral, my dog was in the yard and barked. The woman actually threw a pop bottle over my fence and yelled at the dog "Don't you be disrespectin my pappy!". When I went to bring him in, she continued to flip out and yell at me. I told her I'd call the police for harassment if she didn't leave (now, understand that to get to my fence, you have to go through about 12 ft of heavy brush and brambles at the back of the cemetery- it isn't as though it is directly accessible to walk up to.)...
What would you do/how would you handle mourners? I personally believe I am being absolutely respectful by eliminating noise and distractions during the funeral, or if I *know* someone is visiting after a ceremony. But I can't just make my life stop every time someone comes out to the cemetery.
I've been called all kinds of names from "skinny white bitch" to "ignant (that's how you say it down here) ho" and everything in between, all the while being told I am 'disrespectin' their loved ones.
What can I do differently? We already make accommodation as much as we can.
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