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Why does a marriage fall apart after the death of a child?


Asked by crazycrazymom74 at 3:42 PM on Jul. 11, 2008 in General Parenting

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  • Because men and women grieve differently. There needs to be understanding that you are both grieving but in different ways and that is okay. They are experiencing the same general feelings and each knows that the other is feeling it too, so why "burden" or add to what the other one is feeling? I know this because we lost our only child in July 2008. We are working on re-establishing our relationship as a couple and not as a family of three.

    Answer by sjs at 10:39 AM on Sep. 17, 2008

  • Stress ang guilt come to mind. Also not getting grief counseling is another thing to consider as a cause.

    Answer by vbruno at 3:51 PM on Jul. 11, 2008

  • Both parents need someone to love and comfort them but don't have any love or comfort to give. Grief counseling is VERY helpful.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 4:14 PM on Jul. 11, 2008

  • I think either they blame the other person and/or stress... Greif does weird things and i think more often then not leads to depression and if one person recovers (as mush as you can) and the other doesn't makes life hard. also i think memories...whenever you look at the other person your always reminded of the child you lost... so depends on the person i think

    Answer by koalagirl78 at 4:46 PM on Jul. 11, 2008

  • I think in some cases either both parents or one are so grief stricken they will forget about their spouse. They forget they are not the only ones hurting. They will then drift apart because of not leaning on eachother to get over their loss.

    Answer by Wounded at 7:44 PM on Jul. 11, 2008