I'm a mom of three children, each one is totally different and the only one living at home with me still is 15 years old and kind of rebellious in her own way, she's smart, determined but rude to me lately and I keep finding notes of how little she likes me now, she absolutely loves my fiance but seems to like me less, I'm not understanding this growing up we were very close and she always looked up to me but since the divorce with my x husband she seems to dispise me.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:10 PM on Dec. 8, 2008 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by feesharose at 8:14 PM on Dec. 8, 2008
My parents divorced for the same reason when I was 13. I was rebellious just the same. Looking back now that I am an adult, I realized that my mom didn't make me feel special. She was always with her best friend and it seemed like I took the back seat. I am VERY close with my mother now and I respect her more for divorcing my father...however, I became very promiscuous at a young age just trying to get a little attention. PM me if you want to talk.
Answer by KaceesMom at 8:15 PM on Dec. 8, 2008
Answer by a_and_j_momma at 8:15 PM on Dec. 8, 2008
Answer by admckenzie at 11:09 PM on Dec. 8, 2008
Answer by melody77 at 11:12 PM on Dec. 8, 2008
Divorce devastates kids--period. You need a hard look at how your have allowed another man in your life--how long has it been? Did you take the time needed to heal and help her heal from the divorce? I hate it when "adults" do such things and then blame the kids for their reactions--when in reality--the kids are the only ones dealing with reality! Kids do not heal in a few months--it takes years, often a life time. It doesn't mean you put your life on hold, but it does mean you put your own desires on hold until your kids are on level ground. Also, if the divorce has been in the last 5 years, chances are you are the "safe" parent to get mad at because she knows you aren't going anywhere:-) It is a bit tough to understand, but often times a child will lash out at the one parent they know will still be there for them......
Answer by Anonymous at 10:23 AM on Dec. 9, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 10:25 AM on Dec. 9, 2008
Answer by JCRestoredme at 11:16 AM on Dec. 9, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 10:34 AM on Dec. 10, 2008
Well, that was long ago in Dec 2008, seems like year, lmao .. we never went to counseling...but I am a counselor and you know what it was a phase she was going through she's now 16 and we are doing all kinds of things together and she's happy to spend time with me and tells me how sorry she is to write all that and doesn't know herself why she did that, she blames it on OUT of CONTROL hormones, sounds reasonable but my wedding is on for DECEMBER 23,2009 and she's the maid of honor, she asked for that spot at our wedding, I'm so elated!!!
Answer by Hurtnlostmom at 6:35 PM on Jul. 25, 2009