Reason i'm asking this is I have this friend who is going through a divorce, and she hasn't worked in 14 years. She recently got a job and is complaining how it's ridiculous that she has to do this. Apparently he husband makes REALLY good money and throughout the year she has been spending more and more and because of it she has been forgetting where she came from. Her personality has changed. She now thinks nothing is good enough, everything needs to be name brand and $$$ to be worth anything. Nothing but the best kind of attitude. Her Husband had told her many times to tone it down, and that her attitude is changing. This has been going on for 5 years now and she hasn't change for the better it's now worst.
He has confided in my husband that he can't take it anymore and in what is going on at home. You can tell he is warn out because of her and her ways. And it's hit a point that he filed for divorce. We go out and she puts him down belittles him and this was before the papers where filed as well. She doesn't even do anything with her kids anymore, it's all about her now. Tennis lessons, cleaning lady, new car, shopping etc.... And most of us live the same way so it's not jealousy. We all live differently but similar in some ways. Most of us appreciate our husbands for what they do for us, but she expects it and she didn't come from money either. You would think she'd stay humble. I didn't come from money either, our husbands made this life for us. We all live in a wonderful neighborhood and a few are SAHM's and the other half do work. I myself am a SAHM.
So now he is divorcing her and she is raising hell in that he is leaving her. So she wants him to stay in this toxic marriage just so that she doesn't have to work and for her lifestyle to continue. Which I think it's so unfair to him, so does dh and a few other couples we know and hang out with, some other's think she is right for wanting this. So she is going around telling everyone that she shouldn't have to work at all and even after he divorces her. I told her many woman go back to work and it doesn't have to be because a divorce. It could just be for something to do. Now she is mad at me.
So I want to know if you divorced, did you go back to work or did you count on your ex to keep supporting you?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:54 PM on May. 26, 2011 in Relationships
I've always worked. My life and life style only improved when I divorced my first husband. Your friend sounds like she needs to get a dose of reality. Maybe when she is forced to work to supplement her child support and alimony she will learn to appreciate what she had and remember where she came from. She may see the error of her ways...
Answer by meooma at 8:58 PM on May. 26, 2011
Answer by emmyandlisa at 9:18 PM on May. 26, 2011
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Answer by Heather021287 at 9:54 PM on May. 26, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 10:03 PM on May. 26, 2011
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