DH and I have been married 12 years and my in laws have turned to him for every thing. It usually involves him driving an hour out of his way for some insignificant task they could do themselves. If Grandma calls MIL to ask her for a favor *she doesn't have a car, lives alone* MIL in turn calls DH whining saying she doesn't have time to do whatever it is. She only has time to go do things SHE wants to do. MIL doesn't have a job, so why can't she do it? DH has a job and coaches our son's baseball team. What little free time he has, he can't enjoy because they come up with things for him to do. BIL is always having car trouble and never calls unless he wants DH to fix it. Then if he isn't there quick enough, he calls the house phone and my cell phone to see what's taking so long! SIL doesn't call DH to get him to do things, but if she is asked to do errands for their Dad or Grandma, she complains to her Mom and MIL in turn calls DH to whine on her behalf. Once, SIL was INSIDE the store with prescriptions for their Dad and she said she didn't have time get them because she was going out partying. So DH has to drive 1 hour round-trip to town to do it. DH doesn't mind helping out, but it's gotten ridiculous. We have three kids, ages 11, 8 and 2. He never gets to spend much time with them because his family has him running all over the place. Just yesterday, our oldest son told me that it bothers him that people call him for everything. He said they take time away from him and his brothers when they could things themselves. When an 11 year old can see this, I don't know why the adults in the family can't. I keep telling DH that it is ok for him to say he can't and that they'll figure out he won't be their doormat any more. It's a constant cycle. He feels bad for saying no, but complains to me that they are wearing him out. I don't know what to do to help him other than tell him to stand up for himself. What would you do in this situation?
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