I am in the process of separating and divorcing my husband of 7 years married, 8 years known. We have three kids: 9 from my previous relationship, 6 and 5.
We learned that we are good friends and can function MUCH MORE effectively not married and together 24/7. We are on good terms and I would like to maintain that to the largest degree possible.
He is moving three hours away to his hometown, a small town because he'll have a huge promotion when he does. He won't have family support but friends and community. The school is a pre-K through 12. It is a good school, my oldest attended for a year previously. I am staying with my job and urban setting. I will have family near by, daycare already set and a nanny set up.
In reference to my question: I feel that for this upcoming school year it would be best for everyone to have kids with me during the week and him weekends. I want him settled in work, housing before he takes full responsibility for our three too. Also I fear I will "die" without them for five data a week. Like I said other than the current lease being up and a new school their lives here would stay the same. I am seeking a neighboring school and housing.
He says the school would be better there (possibly), the wouldn't have to move again (true unless they were miserable there), and they could grow up purer and healthier than here (that is very true). Also he is the disciplinarian and the kids don't respect me very well, I'm the "fun/activity" parent and always have been. I have the responsibility now and fear this new role added to everything else will be a miserable thing for everyone. Not a forte of his, hence the divorce.
He is a MAJOR DEBATOR and will only take facts to win an argument.
GIVE ME ASSISTANCE WITH FINDING AND PRESENTING THOSE FACTS TO KEEP MY KIDS HERE PLEASE!!!
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