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Have You Experienced Birth Abuse?

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Asked by dedicatedrider at 6:42 PM on May. 27, 2011 in Pregnancy

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  • Thankfully no I have not.

    Answer by smurfyangel at 6:51 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • i never have but it hits home. i was 20 when i had my twins. everytime i was in triage for preterm labor and i was in a lot of pain the nurses and doctors treated me like shit. my mom even saw how bad they treated me. (she always came with me because i was single) i felt dehumanized by the nurses in that hospital. many family and friends urged me to make formal complaints but what with my boys coming early for a few months after their birth i was just so busy i never did. i wish i had though.

    Answer by ElsaSalsaaa at 6:55 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • ElseSalsaaa, I'm sorry you experienced that! That actually does qualify as birth abuse =(

    Comment by dedicatedrider (original poster) at 6:59 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • I'm not going to watch the video, but when I was induced I got to that point where I said... OK.. it's time for my Epidural. My wish was VERY well documented in my chart... then nurse turned into a raving bitch at that point!! So nasty I could not believe she was a professional. She was stalling too - trying to put off making the call so it would be too late I think. I finally literally got in her face in between contractions and told her if I didn't hear her make the call right away I was going to call the chief of anesthesiology at home myself since he is one of my best and oldest friends. And then I told her she could leave my room and kindly not return!! Funny... they were in there 5 minutes later. If you don't like your job, and can't do it ethically.... retire!!


    Answer by Crafty26 at 7:05 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • WOW! I couldn't read anymore. That is really inhuman treatment. I haven't ever witnessed any of that or have I been treated like that, I don't think but if I did, not to that extent or remember. If there was, it was something I could not see. After reading some of the most brutal,all I can do is feel sad and humiliated for these women who have been treated in any of these manners especially during childbirth. It's disturbing and appalling.

    Answer by SMITxsM2 at 7:15 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • oh geeee. I had three kids and never felt that there was "birth rape'. I wore the hospital gown, I had an IV--thank goodness --and all the rest . None of those things are bad.. BIRTH RAPE? Sorry but that is just nuts. whoever dreamed that up needs a psychiatrst!

    Answer by minnesotanice at 7:25 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • I don't know if what I experienced was "birth abuse" but I was definately intimidated and scared into abandoning my plans. With my second child I was told that I failed the AFP test and he would likely have a chromosomal problem. I mentioned to them many, many times that I though they had my dates off and therefore did the test too early which would have impacted the results and they refused to hear me or change the due date. I was pressured to have an amnio (which I successfully refused). I was also scared into having numerous ultrasounds (9 in total). Every single time I was told that my child would be born with a chromosomal problem and that he had IUGR. My intent was to have a VBAC but I was scared into believing that my pregnancy could not go beyond 40 wks. When I went into labor 1 day before my c-section they still refused to do the VBAC because I wasn't dialated. Interestingly enough, the perinatologist (cont)

    Answer by Syphon at 7:45 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • responsible for the majority of this actually wrote me a letter of apology several months after my son was born (perfectly fine) and enclosed was a refund check for every co-pay.

    Answer by Syphon at 7:46 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • Wow Syphon, that's amazing you got a letter and a check! Doesn't really make up for it, but I'm sure it helped.

    As to the OP yes, but I don't want to get in to it :(

    Answer by Xynyth at 8:12 PM on May. 27, 2011

  • I myself experience birth abuse, namely with my middle son, things happened repetitively through labor and birth experience with him. My youngest there were 2-3 incidents that I would also consider birth abuse.

    Comment by dedicatedrider (original poster) at 8:23 PM on May. 27, 2011

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