My son is 7 years old and has just completed the second grade. His teacher wants to hold him back because she says that he isn't ready for the third grade. I'm against this for self esteem reasons. My plan is to "homeschool" him during the summer so that I can help him get ready. Are there ways to help a child develop "maturity" besides just time?
Answer by Melbornj at 7:33 PM on May. 27, 2011
Answer by layh41407 at 7:42 PM on May. 27, 2011
Answer by t3dragonflies at 9:14 PM on May. 27, 2011
Schools in general do not recommend holding a child back without a lot of consideration. I sub at my son's school but am not a teacher by profession. I have seen a lot of kids over the last couple of years whose parents have insisted that they be moved forward against the school's recommendation. Without exception, they struggle through the next year, whether academically or socially and often end up being held back later, when it is more difficult socially. I understand your concerns about your son's self esteem, but frankly, his self esteem will only be affected if you view it as negative and convey that to him. At this age, by and large, other kids don't realize and your son will quickly form a new social group with his new classmates. By giving him the extra year in 2nd grade you will be setting him up for success in his future school years rather than potential failure.
Answer by sweetpotato418 at 7:56 AM on May. 28, 2011
Answer by dancer at 7:32 PM on May. 27, 2011
WHAT is her reason? Emotional maturity or academic maturity?
Answer by Anonymous at 7:33 PM on May. 27, 2011
Answer by SassySue123 at 7:39 PM on May. 27, 2011
When my twin boys were tested for kindergarten, I was told they were not ready. I was thinking to myself not ready for kindergarten WTF. I agreed in putting them in a pre k program the school offered. BEST decision I made both boys had a awesome experience. Now they are getting ready to graduate kindergarten full of confidence. I think working with your son during the summer would be an excellent idea. Sounds like your son is one of the younger second graders, and a few months in age difference does make a huge difference in maturity. If your sons teacher feels he should be held back, it's because she sees his struggles and knows third grade is only going to be more difficult. Good Luck to you and your son. Trust me when I say this, you will be happy you held him back in the future when you see how wonderful he is doing in school!
Answer by mommiedear at 8:01 PM on May. 27, 2011
Answer by minimo77 at 10:11 PM on May. 27, 2011