I lost my dad Wednesday due to his cancer spreading to his brain. Okay my mom is too weak and sad to handle the arrangments so my oldest sister and I went to the funeral home to do it ourselves. I found out my oldest sister and my mom was listed as beneficiaries, and that was no problem to me. The problem was when we got to the funeral home, my sister took over everything. She didn't allow me to help her pick out the casket or flowers. I feel so bad because I wanted to say to everyone that I helped. I feel like the "Black sheep" of the family because the entire time my dad was sick it was me and my mom who sat in the radiation and chemotherapy sessions. My sister was not there, nor did she take part in it. I was with my dad till the end, and I feel abandoned. Should I get over it?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:23 PM on May. 27, 2011 in Relationships
dont feel bad.... this could be her guilt coming through. She could feel bad about not being there and by taking over she feels she did help in some way. Let her have this. We all greave so differently and you have those memories of actually BEING there with dad that she will never have.
let her have this.
Answer by Anonymous at 8:26 PM on May. 27, 2011
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Answer by geminilove7 at 12:12 AM on May. 28, 2011
Answer by Michigan-Mom74 at 12:34 AM on May. 28, 2011
I am So Sorry for the loss of your Dad.. i'm not sure why alot of people try to take over everything when someone dies- it mattered when they were alive- you should be able to make decisions about the arrangements too- your Dad knew you were there with him; you can be at Peace- your Sister is going to have a much harder time finding it..
Answer by daisyb at 12:36 AM on May. 28, 2011
Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 1:02 AM on May. 28, 2011