My boyfriend has been divorced from his wife for over 4 years now, and we have been dating for 3. They have no children or mutual friends together, and she is re-married recently to her old high school sweetheart (her and I went to high school together and used to be friends but had a falling out our senior year). I knew that every now again, they would text or something if she had a question about like her car or something, and once he gave her back their old entertainment center. Whatever. Well, yesterday he told me that she wants to buy us a gift for our baby... (Im 8 months pregnant.) ?what? He told me that they do talk often, and are really good friends! Umm, I didnt totally bring it up to him, but whoa this bothers me. I dont mind checking up every now and then, being friends on facebook etc. But why the need to be "really good friends" all of a sudden? I have always had this feeling that there are lingering feelings, and may always be, between them, or him for her. Not in a romantic way...I hope... but in a "first love, no closure etc" sort of way. I have felt like I wont ever compare to her his eyes, etc. He still talks about her sometimes, more often than I would like...which probably he thinks about her even more. I dont see a reason to be friends, if there is nothing like children or mutual friends to keep them connected. I am not comfortable with her buying us a gift, and I really dont want him to be friends with her... but, I dont see how I can tell him who to be friends with and who not be friends with. I feel like maybe I am over-reacting, but I can't help hating this. And just the way he said it... was odd for some reason, I dont know how to explain. Im just feeling uncomfortable, suspicious, and weirded out. what do you think?Answer Question
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 9:50 PM on May. 27, 2011
I'm friends with some of my exes, but not "really good friends". I think it's nice to be able to keep up a friendship with someone you obviously cared about, but honestly I wouldn't be comfortable with it either.
Answer by skittles1108 at 9:52 PM on May. 27, 2011
Answer by babymomma101110 at 11:01 PM on May. 27, 2011