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Venting!!!

just need to vent!!!

df and i are having our first child,, we recently moved back in with my parents to save some money because df has a medical condition and we ended up behind on our own because of hospital bills, medication costs, ect. so my parents pretty much asked us to move in and i said yes against my dfs decision.... now i'm regretting it. were pretty much being treated like crap for not giving them any money or whatever, we can't leave without being questioned, and other petty little things. it's no better here than when i lived here while i was in school and i just cant deal with it...... i think it's ridiculous that they invited us in to help us out and were being treated like this! am i over reacting?

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pipsqueak01

Asked by pipsqueak01 at 11:28 AM on May. 28, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Well, It might be annoying but you really can NOT complain since you are grown adults living with mom and dad.... I do understand about the medical bills... but still you are under their roof that they worked a life time to provide.

    IF money is THAT tight how about moving in with his parents?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:34 AM on May. 28, 2011

  • Was there any agreement as to help paying things? I think you guys need to sit down and talk about what is being required money wise. Open communication is going to be huge. Good luck!
    BabyBugsmama

    Answer by BabyBugsmama at 11:37 AM on May. 28, 2011

  • You should at least be paying for the expenses that went up with you living there-food,utilities,etc
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 11:48 AM on May. 28, 2011

  • Everything should have been talked about and decided on before the first of your possessions were taken into the house. All four adults need to sit down together and determine the rules of all living under one roof. Finances should be the priority here: who pays for what and when. Remind mom and dad you are adults and will not be questioned about your comings and goings any more than they would want to be questioned by you. It's a workable situation and many in this economy have had to do it...but establish ground rules from the get. Good luck.

    meooma

    Answer by meooma at 11:52 AM on May. 28, 2011

  • You should be giving them at least a little money for groceries and other expenses. They're probably mad because you are living there rent free and not contributing.
    Bethsunshine

    Answer by Bethsunshine at 11:55 AM on May. 28, 2011

  • Seriously? You sound like a spoiled brat. You should be thanking your parents not complaining about them.
    Syphon

    Answer by Syphon at 12:24 PM on May. 28, 2011

  • before moving back in with any family you should always have ground rules established so things like this don't happen, but since you are already there, I would still sit down and try to lay out some respect rules.. if they want you to pitch in, do it, if you want them to lay off about the questioning, ask them to.. Do it when you are all together and address all the issues at once. not as a passing buy comment.
    xxhazeldovexx

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 12:32 PM on May. 28, 2011

  • did you agree on the terms when you moved in? did you agree to help out with things while you were there?

    as for being questioned, isn't there a way to just let it roll off your back? you are a adult, and if you want to go somewhere I don't see how they can stop you.

    I guess just talk to them about rules and boundaries and if you can't agree then it's best to move out.
    Sounds like you didn't talk things over about how things would be before you moved in.
    ItsMe89

    Answer by ItsMe89 at 12:53 PM on May. 28, 2011

  • I agree. It is their house and they still see you as a child even though you're an adult. But to be treated as an adult you must act like one. Sit everyone down and lay it all out. Wherever you disagree try to compromise. If they would like financial contribution then decide on an amount and pay it. If you can help around the house then do it so you're not just living there without doing anything. If you're wanting to come and go as you please then just tell them you'll be back but don't come in late because it's inconsiderate to come in after everyone is asleep. Otherwise you're just making it harder than it has to be. They're helping you out so be grateful because many people don't have family who will do that.
    tattooedmama126

    Answer by tattooedmama126 at 1:04 PM on May. 28, 2011

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