i just had our 6th child. the last few months of pregnancy i was on complete bedrest so no sex allowed. at which point, my SO pulled back on affection and physical contact of any sort. baby came a month early thru emergency c section, 15 staples and infected incision, drainage and new baby later, he still wont come near me. i have to beg for a hug or a kiss, and when i get them, they are perfunctory and empty. it is impossible to discuss things like this with him and its making me feel worse n worse. its summer and as hot and muggy as it is, i wear a sweatshirt and baggy pants all the time, i wont shower with him and i wont change in the same room as him anymore either. he is my better half and the reason i am who i am. i love him so much, its taken me forever to feel ive finally got it right, and i know he loves me, but maybe he just isnt in love w me nemore? idk what to do! plz. any ideas would be appreciated!!Answer Question
I can feel for you. My second child was born through a c-section which later became infected. For about 12 weeks, my husband had to clean and pack the incision with gauze; at least twice a day. It was gross and obviously, sex was out of the question. It took a while for us to get back on track after that but what helped was open and honest communication. Let him know how you feel without blaming him. Hopefully he can do the same. It is something that has to be addressed or your marriage will suffer. With six kids, I am sure you guys don't want that to happen!
Answer by SDJenn at 12:21 PM on May. 28, 2011
Answer by tattooedmama126 at 12:51 PM on May. 28, 2011