im confuse, i dont know what i need to do?
my son needs a dad but my ex told me to stay back ..i dont know what does it means..
he told me, he cant handle my moods but i think im reasonable with this...he never call or even see my boy & if ask him or call him he will say he will do, i will promise my boy that he will see his dad but after a week he will just send message i cant do it coz he is busy.
& i will start to feel upset....i will never stop texting him until i feel ok...i know its also my fault but my reaction is toward his broken promise to my boy who is waiting for him the whole week.
one day, he said his coming at3pm .. i get my boy ready & suddenly 15 mins. before 4pm he just send message he is not coming...i got crazy of that situation specially i saw my son crying & so disappointed...& when i said a txt why he do that, he just simply say he is busy & stop sending him message, he will call when he is free.
i talked to him, beg him, ask him in a mature way just to see my son...name it i did it!
he never stop blaming about my reaction when he upset me or my boy.
he said he wants to see our boy but if he start to think that if one day he will break again his promise i will be crazy again...so as he said he decided to stop seeing our boy coz of me...
as far as i know i just acted in the situation he puts me...
im not saint or martir that will just say yes its fine , while in fact its not.
the last time we talked he said, he will see again my boy if he saw that everything between the 2 of us is close...i felt so mad after all the things he did to me, he have the guts to say that...not to mention he cheated me when i was away, i forgive him,
he marry a his 2nd wife same nationality as he (arab, muslim) i forgive him still....
when his 2nd wife away he said he still loves me, i believe again...when his 2nd wife cames back he forgot us....he disappear & if i text him how we missed him, he ignore us & tell me what crazy thing im doing, 2nd wife can smell something.
(his afraid to his wife coz his wife might tell his parents .... he married that lady coz his parents choose that...they dont like me coz im christian & not arab)
for all of the things he did to me, i still let him see my boy & gave the whole right as father but he is taking it or granted.
i start to hate him but i feel so bad, coz i feel like im thorn between them....my boy asking his dad to be with him...his dad telling me to STAY BACK & when he feel that between the 2 of us is ok thats the time he will see his son...for me, i want to move on & not see him anymore.
in ur opinion,
i dont have the right to be upset everytime he will not call while he promised he will or cancel to see my son in the last minute?
is it my fault why he dont see my boy?
why is the best thing to do?
i dont want my boy blame me that coz of me he dont see his dad.
how do i need to react everytime he will blame me for not seeing my son?
im thinking that i will let him away until me & my son forget him
but i want when we are done moving on, i will not let him see my boy anymore.
is it right to my boy not to see his dad anymore, until he understand the whole situation?
& what if his hard headed dad blame me again & tell my son one day , he wants to see him but i dont allow him, will it be my mistake again?!!!
please tell me what to do?!
Answer by emmyandlisa at 6:09 PM on May. 28, 2011
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