My husband and I have been together for 6 years, and we have a 5 year old daughter.
I would say our lives together our perfect... we really have no problems EXCEPT his parents.
I am someone who has always gotten along with everyone, and of course expected to get along with them ( I was actually hoping for a close relationship with my new MIL) ... But of course that didnt happen.
because I was younger than my husband ( he is 13 years older) , and not as prim and proper as her other daughter in law ( dont get me wrong, I am very polite and such... but I also have a sense of humor and I am very accepting to alot of things) .... She instantly disliked me, didnt want anything to do with me ( other than a fake hug on the holidays) , of course she also acted this way to my child...
over the years, it got worse, since she has 2 granddaughters the same age ( BIL & SIL also have a 5 year old girl ) ... MIL would do all kinds of things with their daughter, nothing with ours, buy lots of nice and expensive gifts, while my daughter would get those $1 puzzles... At t-ball "grandma" would root for their daughter, but not ours...
It came out that the reason she didnt accept me or my daughter was because she " knew" that I was just " some floozy, who sleeps around and that there is no way that she is her biological grandaughter... I guess she was overlooking that fact that my daughter is identical to their family...
After that , my husband basically disowned her... he told her that she IS his daughter, and I am his wife, and if she couldnt accept it, she was the one missing out...
Recently, BIL caught his wife cheating on him -- they are going through a divorce and a DNA test was taken on thier daughter... and it was proven she is NOT his biological daughter... in fact all this time the mother has been taking the daughter to visit her bio. father and was just staying with BIl for money.
of course they will still love little girl no matter what.... but I hope MIL realizes.. the only reason she said she put that grandaughter on a pedastel (sp) is because that was her " real grandaughter" ... when she wasnt really, and her actual bio grandaughter she shut out of her life.... I hope she feels miserable !
Asked by Anonymous at 1:32 PM on May. 29, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by meooma at 1:45 PM on May. 29, 2011
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Answer by pinkdragon36 at 6:02 PM on May. 29, 2011
What a judgemental person your mil is! I think it is kind of funny (in a way) that her "perfect" DIL who she loved turned out to be the "floozy" and her favorite GD is not biologically hers! Hmmmm maybe this will teach mil to be more tolerant and less judgemental of people! And cheers to your husband for standing up for you and telling his mom off!
Answer by MizLee at 10:33 PM on May. 29, 2011
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