My son has aspergers. He is in therapy for anger management and he is on meds. They seem to be helping as his meltdowns are fewer, not as bad and not as long. The therapist has given him ways to recognize his anger, and how to do 'self calming' techniques to calm himself down. When he has a meltdown he has a designated 'safe room' (his bedroom or the bathroom) and he goes in there to calm himself down. I have learned that when he is in 'meltdown mode' it is best to leave him alone and not talk to him (that will just provoke him and make him more unreasonable and make it last longer). Then once he is calm we talk about it, and see what set him off. if it is something simple that can be changed (like light bothering him when he is trying to sleep- for example) we find ways to change it (in this case turn off outside light and he wears an eye mask to bed). Otherwise we figure out ways for him to cope with the issue.
at 12:17 PM on Jun. 2, 2011