it's like being pulled in two directions. i'm almost positive without a shadow of doubt that there is no saving this marriage. the signs have been here all along and i've kept lying to myself that it would eventually work out. we had an explosive argument last night, to where he screamed at me, which he's never done before, but in front of the kids. we tried to talk about the problems again when they went to bed but it just led to more arguing. clearly we're both set in our ways, we're both wrong in eachother's eyes, there is no room for compromise anymore. he didn't come to bed last night either. i'm not sure what to expect when he comes out of the mancave, but i'm mentally prepared for him to say he's leaving, going back home to finish counseling (Ptsd/Depression) and he'll come back after that. but that's not acceptable anymore, he can't keep coming and going when things get tough, that confuses the kids, and i don't want to imagine what he's doing when he doesn't have us "up his ass" (which is how he feels, although in our 2 years of marriage he's only lived in our household for 6 months of it), that drove me crazy last time. anyway i know leaving is good and right, but i also know that this is it for me if he leaves again. i also know staying isn't good either. but if it's the best thing for everyone why does thinking about being alone, raising our 3 daughters on my own, not having him sleep next to me anymore, make me nauseous and really sad?
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