Last night i had a get together with some friends and their SO's at my home. One couple (We'll call them couple "H") who came by to join in the party, Brought their 12 year old son, Who just happens to be friends with the neighbors across the street from me. Those kids from across the street came to play at my house with the 12 year old, in the pool etc etc...
One child from across the street is very sweet. Yet, his brother is very rambunctious and is to be believed to have ADHD. Well, as the night went on the kids got very loud and were kinda making a mess with the pool water and making a mess of the outside. After several attempts, by other adults to keep the kids quiet, couple "H"'s wife began to tell the kids to be quiet and to keep it down and to stop making a mess of the outside. Well, the kid that is very rambunctious told her that it was not her house and she could not tell him what to do. When she approached me and told me that she told the child to go home and that he was not welcomed back until he behaved correctly, I told her that i thought she was taking it too far. She got upset and left and i don't think she'll be back again...
Did i do the right thing?....It is just a child.....And maybe she could have been a little more understanding perhaps?.....Maybe i am wrong?..I don't have any kids of my own so maybe i am the one who does not understand?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:34 PM on May. 30, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)
Answer by Saya at 3:37 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by shortycmlb at 3:38 PM on May. 30, 2011
Uh yeah I would of sent him home. In the end he will know that he can disrespect anyone and get away with it at your home. That does not fly with me. She was right.
Answer by momavanessa at 3:40 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 3:43 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by attap5 at 3:52 PM on May. 30, 2011
I don't think you were wrong, she was wrong for taking it upon herself to handle the situation when she should have just told you what was going on so you could do what you felt appropriate, considering it was your pool. I wouldn't worry about it unless it really bothers you and you don't want to lose her friendship. If that's the case, you could call her and explain why you said what you did. Again, I don't feel you said anything wrong, she did take it too far and was way out of line!
Answer by anichols1 at 3:53 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by kimigogo at 3:54 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 4:02 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by msavis at 4:12 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by hollydaze1974 at 4:28 PM on May. 31, 2011
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