I have seen this question here on cafe mom and have seen it come up with people I know so I was wondering what ya'lls take on it is
Do children need a bed when visiting overnight with the NCP? Does it matter if they are only there 1 day a month or 50/50?
Do they need their own room? Can they share with a step-sibling, does that step sibling have to be around the same age or the same gender? Can the child share with a parent or other adult?
I know in some states, DCF has regulations on this. My state says that every child should have a bed. If they are COed to sleep there less then 20% of the time (which means less then EOW) it can be a blow up mattress or another portable bed like the fold out couch. However more then 20% they have to have an actual bed, really it can be a mattress on the floor but the big thing is that is has to be a real mattress (not a blow up one or the fold out couch or those foam kid's recliners).
As far as bedrooms, my state says they don't have to have their own bedroom, they can share but there must be a bedroom for them to use and if they have to share it must be with someone appropriate, same gender, no adults unless that adult is the bio parent and the same gender as the child, children sharing must be within 5 years of each other and boys and girls who are not siblings can't share.
Is this reasonable? Do you know the laws in your state? Do you follow the guidelines for your state? If you don't know them and you found out they were the same as my state and the OP wanted to enforce it, would you be able to accommodate that? Do you think they are reasonable?
I found this out because my brother told us he was sleeping on the floor at my dad's house EOW. He was always coming home with his back hurting so my mom told my dad he needed to get him something to sleep on (even a $20 blow up mattress from Walmart). He refused so she talked to a friend who works for DCF who told her he has to have something, he has since been sent a letter from his saying he has to get something and they will be checking up on it.
Answer by SassySue123 at 8:42 PM on May. 30, 2011
Do children need a bed when visiting overnight with the NCP? I have seen this written into court orders as a BIG FAT YES!!! I'm in MA.
Answer by Crafty26 at 8:46 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by lovingmy4babies at 9:17 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by matthewscandi at 11:01 PM on May. 30, 2011
Answer by klickitykat at 12:14 AM on May. 31, 2011
Answer by togo90210 at 12:54 AM on May. 31, 2011
Answer by riotgrrl at 10:45 AM on May. 31, 2011