So I am divorced. recently my ex moved in with us. We divorced because he was too attached to his parents. When we were married I carried a heavy load. at times I worked two or three jobs because he was lazy and would run to his parenets for money. Meanwhile he was rude. I mean straight rude when he did not get his way.
I started marriage couseling and he stopped going because his mom told him too. Urrr. Bottem line he is selfish. Through the years he seemed to have grown up and he has helped out with the kids. Picking them up and with homework since he has been back. However He is not on the rental agreement even though I asked. He wants me to stop child support. Even though I have no idea what he wants in the relationship. I have everything in my name. The apartment. The utilities. My car....and so on.
I just feel like he is taking advantage again. The whole point of him being here is to help. But besides picking the kids up it has been a chore for me. He still is paying support but I feel he should pay part of the rent since he lives here and towards utilities. I pay for everything. I think he think because he is here helping that is enough. In the divorce decree it also states he has to pay for medical insurance. He has a new job and he says that it cannot get insurance for 6 months. Now my kids have no medical insurance and I will have to pay out of pocket for everything. They need shots and new glasses. Insurance through my job will be very expensive.
So my dad says to move home to save money and get him out from under me. That way I can live rent free and pay for medical care and everything else. What do I say? because if we move in with my parents the only place he will have to go is his parents. his job makes it difficult for him to get a place on his own. He does not make very much.
I feel bad....I was hoping we could make this work. However my gut says I am being taken advantage of....I hate living paycheck to paycheck and now everything is in my name and if something happens it falls on me.
Suggestions? How do I tell him....He will be furious and of course his mom will tell me I need to take care of him....I hate confromtations. I hate when people think I should carry the load. I love him but it seems no matter what I do I will have to take care of him and I just can't when it takes away from me taking care of my kids.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:54 PM on May. 31, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by emmyandlisa at 12:56 PM on May. 31, 2011
Answer by kimberlyinberea at 12:58 PM on May. 31, 2011
I'd pack and move. Tell him you can no longer afford to pay for everything on your own and you are moving. Me personally honestly, I'd just tell him he had to move, but I can be pretty abrupt and straightforward most of the time.
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