I am a customer service representative meaning 40 hours a week I sit at a desk and answer phone calls. My job is not wonderful and there have been many days where I have threatened to walk out without so much as a goodbye, but lately things have gotten more bearable.
Over the last year I started going back to school to become an obstetric sonographer. Because of this, I was having difficulty balancing my home/work/school life so I asked for a reduction in my work hours from 40 down to 32. It helped immensely. My 4-year-old son stopped acting out so much because I was home more, even if I was studying a good bit of the time. My boyfriend (whom I have been with for 3 years) has been very accommodating over this time and now that summer is here, I am going back up to 40 hours/week at work until the next semester starts.
At work, I have recently been asked to be a part of our web support team and assist with agent calls and escalated calls. As part of this lateral transition, they have selected me along with 3 other coworkers to fly from Pennsylvania to Texas for additional training. We will be in Texas for about a week, all expenses paid. I have never been on an airplane before and I have never been to Texas before. So aside from being a work-related trip, this will give me an opportunity to get out in the world on my own for a little while.
My boyfriend thinks I'm being very selfish and that I should turn down this opportunity because it means being separated from my son for an extended period of time, and technically I am still a single mom so he is also refusing to take any responsibility for my son while I'm away. My older sister thinks it's selfish but that it's a good opportunity personally and professionally (and my son would be staying with her for the week if I go and she has 2 kids so my son will be spending time with family). Even my dad thinks it's a good opportunity for me (but he thinks it would be a better opportunity if my son could come with me, but that's out of the question unfortunately).
I am not posting this question to try and win an argument, but to get some other points of view. I am really torn over this decision. What would you do? Do you think it's selfish?
Answer by UpSheRises at 11:05 AM on Jun. 1, 2011
Not selfish at all. Sounds like your boyfriend is selfish in not being willing to care for your son. Doesn't sound like marriage material or very good step dad material to me. He should be supporting you instead of calling you selfish. Enjoy the trip and experience. Your son will be fine for a week away from you.
Answer by chaiteamomma at 11:07 AM on Jun. 1, 2011
Answer by babygirl0782 at 11:08 AM on Jun. 1, 2011
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Answer by nmmama09 at 11:08 AM on Jun. 1, 2011
It's for work and if it could possibly help your career, do it... Years ago, when my DD was about 4, a couple of from work went down to Las Vegas (I know, horrible huh?! haha) for a week to help set up a new office.My child was well taken care of and did just fine.... I think the BF is having jealousy issues or something to tell you your being selfish. Do you have other family that can watch your son?
Answer by monshine2 at 11:12 AM on Jun. 1, 2011
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