Me, my DH and my dd (5) share a home with my mom and my brother (10). Due to being separated from my dad my mom can't afford to stay in the home, yet since there is no CO yet, my mom can't sell it either so she is kinda stuck. My DH and I are saving for a home. We are buying a condo that will be done in 5 months. We pay my mom $475 for rent (which is more the half the mortgage) half the utilities, and we buy our own groceries. We have no cable or home phone, we just pay for our own cell phones but we pay the internet and the netflix that everyone uses. So like I said, we are supposed to buy our own groceries but everytime I go to get something from the fridge, it seems my brother or mom (usually brother) has eaten it. I don't want to sound petty but it does add up after a while. Or if we order pizza for dinner and my mom and brother are out, they often come home and my mom will say something like " I don't feel like going and getting anything, can we just have a couple slices of pizza?" Meanwhile, we were going to have it for lunch (and if we are not home, she will just take it and "hope we don't mind". A couple of times I have said something like, well we were going to have it for lunch, and she gets all pissy. If I bring it up to her that my brother has eaten an entire bag of chips we bought, or my DD's whole pack of yogurt she will get mad and say dang fine I'll buy you a new one (which she never does). Like I have said I don't want to sound cheap or petty but it's annoying because right now me and my DH only have one care (to save money) so if he is at work, I can't just go to the store to get what I need and also because it's getting to the point where we are paying an extra $150-200 a month for food that they eat. We keep a lot of the things that don't need the refrigerated in mine and my DH's room but still, the cold stuff seems like it is fair game. Also, I make dinner every night, my mom and my brother often join us, this I don't mind since there is always so much extra that would never get eaten but I am always the one doing the cleaning unless my DH helps after work. I would think that at least, if I buy the food, prepare the food, my mom could clean up or at least help. Plus my mom works nights 3 nights a week, we don't mind watching my brother those nights and even getting up early to get him off to school but most of the other nights, my mom goes to her boyfriend's house (who I can't stand) and just says "hey I'm going" not hey do you mind watching him? I really don't know what to do, I don't want the next 5 months to be a fight but I feel like my mom and brother take and take and I get nothing back. How do I handle this with someone who blows up about everything?
FYI we could afford to get our own place but there's no where around here that does anything less then 6 months so we would have to pay an extra months rent plus have less saved up anyway.
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